Hey Badkharma...I can tell you the reason why cops don't like dark tinting. I have been a cop for a long time and it basically boils down to having to walk up on a vehicle with dark windows and not being able to see any potential dangers to oneself. As an officer approaches your vehicle he is scanning everyone and everything inside to alert him to any possible furtive movements or dangers. He/She, like anyone, would like to go home that night to see momma and the kids again.
On an average year there are 150 cops killed in the U.S. A good many of them are killed during traffic stops. So in answer to your question, that is why they are worried about it.
I'm with you though, I like my windows to be dark tinted. But when I get pulled over I roll my windows down so the officer can see me easily. I don't want anything I do to be mistaken for a life threatening event. If I get pulled over at night, in addition to rolling down the window I:
Turn on the interior lights
Kill the motor
Put my hands on the steering wheel where he can see them.
Believe me the cop will take notice and it might go a long way to ease his mood. If he asks you why you did that. Tell him a good friend told you to.